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Why I Quit Facebook

People often ask me why I quit Facebook. I clicked “deactivate” on my Facebook account about two weeks ago. Here are some reasons why you should quit Facebook. It wasn’t something I planned on doing that day or even that week, but it felt like the right thing to do, a step in a good direction. I do find myself missing some of my friends’ regular updates, but it’s mostly liberating.

This wasn’t the first time I quit Facebook, though. My last break from Facebook happened almost three and a half years ago and lasted only a few productive months, just enough to get me through the roughest patch of graduate school. Though often times when I travel, I don’t check Facebook and kinda enjoy the feeling of “being off the grid,” if you know what I mean.

I’m not one of those people who judge Facebook users too harshly, as a lot of people who are actively against using Facebook love to hate on its users and come off sounding a bit high-and-mighty because they’re not on the site. But some people have asked me why I’m no longer on Facebook, so this post will explain my quitting Facebook.

There are a lot of things I don’t like about Facebook and I guess I’ve finally had enough of it all. The fact is, though, I’ve made some incredible connections over the years from all over the world and from on my travels. One of the best things about traveling and moving around is meeting new people, but unfortunately, many of these connections are maintained only through Facebook. This is the sole reason why I won’t actually delete my account but just keep it deactivated.


Reason #1 Why I Quit Facebook: Productivity

I think it’s funny when you Google search “quitting Facebook,” most of the articles that pop up are all written by sites like Elite Daily, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and Entrepreneur.com. One of the major reasons I quit Facebook is because I prioritize my time more than anything else.

I found it not only monopolized my time more than it should, it also contaminated my mental energy and diverted focus away from my work and projects. A little bit here and there adds up to a lot of time wasted.

With Facebook, something’s different. Unlike Instagram or Twitter, it’s always there, lingering beneath the surface just waiting to derail your concentration. Perhaps this is because I work from home and distractions are simply a click away.

You either use it, or you don’t. And if you use it then it’s there 24/7 on messenger, events, tags, notifications, and of course that sheer curiosity to check out what everyone’s doing while you’re “taking a break.” However, a break can turn into thirty minutes if you fall victim to clickbait articles.

But here’s the root problem: since when do we need constant updates on everyone we’ve ever met in life? Sure some people want these updates, but do we need them? I do not. And even after adjusting Newsfeed settings, do you still need chronic updates from everyone in your immediate social network?

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The problem with Facebook is that most everyone I know uses it on a daily basis which makes not using the site increasingly difficult. It has infiltrated my entire social life on levels that are pretty overwhelming. Although I cherish these friendships and even acquaintances, it’s a challenge to use Facebook in moderation. And it’s not just me who feels this way. Facebook is the SECOND most popular site in the world, right after Google, according to Alexa. There’s a reason for this ranking!!

Without a doubt, the last two weeks have been more productive! I did, however, keep my Facebook business page alive, but it’s pretty much devoid of engagement, strictly for the purpose of sharing new content published on my site.

Over the years, I’ve enjoyed using Facebook to post primarily travel pictures, but I’ve slowly converted to Instagram before I quit Facebook. I like Instagram as it’s easier to maintain an account with minimal time and use, and I never feel overwhelmed by content.


Reason #2 I Quit Facebook: Communication

In a way, Facebook gives us the opportunity to keep in touch with people you otherwise wouldn’t, but somehow, I just don’t feel any closer to my friends and family. Actually, I feel the opposite. I don’t like how Facebook has altered the dynamic of friendships and relationships, which is the other reason I quit Facebook.

Perhaps I’m getting older too and just feel the need to cut the b.s. or even eliminate certain toxic relationships in my life. But I honestly don’t think Facebook has done anything to strengthen my friendship with anyone.

And although it has kept me in touch with a lot of people, this is not the same thing as strengthening a friendship, considering the time the average user invests to “keeping in touch.” Facebook adds a gray zone to friendships that I still can’t understand. I love the idea of being able to keep in touch with people you otherwise wouldn’t, but that’s why I have Instagram.

Also, what I share on this site is in many ways misrepresenting. Everything I say or write on that site is completely filtered to the point where I can’t really be “me” anymore. It’s like inviting your boss, your college professors, your family members, your in-laws, your spouse’s bosses, those friends you met at a bar, and everyone you’ve ever met in life to one big party!! How are you supposed to act? You put on your best face for a start….

Instead of actually reaching out to friends and family on the phone or even email, you get small updates about people through the week. Mass announcements over status updates take the place of personal ones, (even among family members!!).

And I miss the days where phone calls, emails, or letter writing provided a more thoughtful level of communication than a “like.” In the world of Facebook, your friends are still connected to your life but in a purely virtual way. Not being on Facebook forces you to think of people rather than simply keeping tabs on people in a comparative level.

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I’ve seen people I’ve known for years or long lost touch with, get married, have kids, divorce, and every other major life milestone. Honestly, it’s a little scary to have my entire life mapped out on a timeline. I miss the days when life was a more mysterious and hazy course. And that you can genuinely catch up with someone without them already knowing your course of life through some virtual synopsis of events and periodic updates. Even on a public blog like this, it’s still less personal than my Facebook account because it’s content rather than personal based.

UPDATE ON QUITTING FACEBOOK : 

It’s been about 6 months since I wrote this post and I lasted a lot longer than I thought. I’m still not on Facebook! For awhile I wanted to log back in to see how my friends were doing and it nagged me a little. I do wonder how my friends are doing, but to be honest, quitting Facebook has done leaps and wonders for my productivity. I can’t even begin to describe the positive effect, but I’ve been very busy settling into Boston.

If Facebook distracts my train of thought for even half an hour, that’s significant in terms of not only lost time, but lost energy, momentum, and focus. To be seriously productive, you need sustained momentum and Facebook is mental crack and will break it down.

But even still, I don’t feel compelled to check social media anymore which is something I’ve struggled to break free from.

Ideally, I’d like to set up another account where I’m friends with just a few close people, but that’s not a priority.

How to Quit Facebook Temporarily:

It’s really quite easy to quit Facebook. You can deactivate your account temporarily which is a safe option if you want to get rid of it and aren’t sure if you want to delete your connections for good. If you choose to log back in later, simply log in as usual and everything will restore to normal. Don’t forget to write your password down though in case you don’t log in for awhile.

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  1. September 18, 2017 at 12:17 pm — Reply

    I like this article and have been contemplating deactivating my acct. I have been off Facebook a week now and honestly feel less stressed out. I do love getting the invites to different events in town so want to keep it for that reason but I guess I could get the newspaper and get them that way:)
    Thank you for your insight and saying what I have been thinking for a year now!

  2. Shelley Ourian
    June 10, 2017 at 9:06 am — Reply

    This is such a great story…thank you very much for sharing! I just started this challenge of taking a break from social media for a month. This is because I was wasting too much time on Facebook, and it took away so much time I could have used to get shit done. I’m in Day 2, and so far I’m realizing how much more time I have.

  3. November 17, 2015 at 10:29 am — Reply

    I feel that facebook hasn’t strengthened my friendships at all. In fact, it makes me feel more distant with my friends when I see a mass status update. I miss the days I received these updates from my friends in a personal email, call or visit. We’ve all become so lazy just updating our status and expecting everyone to read it. I’m also starting to respect my privacy a lot more and I don’t want people knowing what I’m up to 24/7. I know one family that says everything on facebook including conversations they could have via email but nope, I guess they just love to overshare. It made me think…why am I reading this stuff & knowing about their family activities, when I barely know these people. That makes me feel uncomfortable. I’ve deactivated before but I went back on after getting engaged & married. Now I’m contemplating leaving again as it doesn’t add any real value to my day to day life.

    • November 20, 2015 at 5:24 pm — Reply

      Exactly!! It’s too much information. I feel like our brains and our minds are oversaturated in these modern times and we can only process so much. It seriously hampers productivity when your thoughts are derailed by clicking through Newsfeed. I realized that I was spending X amount of time per day actually thinking about the often silly things people posted on Facebook – most people whom I’ve lost touch with. Not good time management! I love keeping a tether to my friendships, but it’s so hard to use Facebook in moderation. It’s like Pandora’s Box.

      Yea, it definitely hasn’t strengthened my friendships either. I also became slightly bitter at the point when 100% of people preferred to give mass status updates to everyone and virtually any truly personal communication tapered off. And I can’t stand it when people post deeply personal stuff on there too – is there even a filter? I protest the increasingly superficiality of social media. In the end, I still keep in touch with those I care to.

  4. Jane
    October 6, 2015 at 6:08 pm — Reply

    I actually quit facebook not too long ago. I had my account actually deleted as opposed to just deactivating it. Many of the reasons I didn’t like it were the same reasons that people tend to like it.

    I don’t mind reconnecting with people from my past, but staying connected is what I am not fond of. I believe for my own self that it’s natural that people lose touch (for neutral reasons like geographical changes or life drifting). I have learned not to be nostalgic for events and people of days gone by.

    I don’t tell a lot of people in my personal life unless they ask, because most of my friends (and nuclear family!) are currently still on facebook and really enjoy it. I don’t like to give the appearance that I’m trying to give an air of transcendence. It’s just a website that wasn’t floating my personal boat, and it’s not about being better than someone, and I don’t see how the having or not having has been seen that way.

    Also, admittedly it’s about my own time management. It’s easy to get hooked on things that in the end are quite unsatisfying. So, for me, the quick and dirty way is to just stop.

    • October 8, 2015 at 12:16 pm — Reply

      I agree Jane, it’s natural for people to lose touch. It has left me questioning the benefits of keeping in touch with people you otherwise never could have though. In a way, Facebook is similar to how cell phones and internet has replaced letter mail. In the past, maintaining long distance relationships was so hard since letter mail is the only form of communication. But today, these relationships are possible. But at what point is communication too much?

      I think part of the problem with Facebook is that it keeps everyone in touch on the same level, but it’s natural to have different levels of relationships. But suddenly, people are sharing personal things with people they otherwise never would! It’s so bizarre.

      I think in the end though, time management was my biggest reason for quitting. It’s amazing how much a little bit here and there throughout the day can really derail your focus and productivity momentum.

  5. February 9, 2015 at 5:39 pm — Reply

    I do agree that Facebook is just a big fake showing off smorgasbord. But they do contribute a bit to my blog’s traffic so I’ll just leave it as it is for now. I think it helps to have a personal account and a page account. The one that I am hooked up on at all times is the personal account. There are less temptations this way 🙂

    • February 9, 2015 at 7:51 pm — Reply

      LOL yea, I agree, so much of it is fake and for show and the rest of it is a lot of b.s. I guess it wouldn’t matter so much if I didn’t care about wasting time, etc…But I’m still able keep my business account so it’s all good.

  6. February 8, 2015 at 3:00 am — Reply

    Good for you for quitting Facebook!! I find myself on there less and less these days, posting pretty infrequently to my profile. It has been a good way to keep in touch with friends who live in other countries, but mainly because I use the messenger feature to chat with them for free. Don’t even necessarily need Facebook to do that! I’ve considered deactivating my account before, but have settled with just not checking so often and not placing any real value in how many likes I get on photos or the number of birthday wishes I get from people I haven’t spoken to in 5 years or more. 😉

    • February 9, 2015 at 6:58 pm — Reply

      Thanks Amy! I think too as I got older I started using it less frequently as well. But yea, it’s honestly done nothing to strengthen any friendships and has proven to be a time waste. So what value does it add? Today, there are definitely other better ways of keeping in touch with people!

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